(Review) Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How To Say No, To Take Control Of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Publisher and Publication Date: Zondervan. 1992. 2017.
Genre: Christian nonfiction. Psychology.
Pages: 352.
Source: Self-purchase.
Rating: Excellent.


I read this book in the mid 1990s the first time. I don’t know where the original copy went. This is a great book to re-read. Always good to be reminded of having healthy boundaries.

In part one the book sets the tone:
“This book presents a Biblical view of boundaries….”
Boundaries are like a fence in my yard. The boundary defines, “what is me and what is not me…leading me to a sense of ownership.” Page 31.
This is a wonderful image to understand the definition of boundaries!

The book has three parts:
Part One: What are Boundaries?
Part Two: Boundary Conflicts
Part Three: Developing Healthy Boundaries

Several points in this book stood out:
Don’t let feelings take charge. Don’t ignore feelings, but don’t let them be in charge.
Take ownership of thoughts, emotions, and choices.
Set limits on people.
Ten laws of boundaries.
The after effects of changing our boundaries.
Avoidants and controllers.
Forgiveness and what it really means.

This is a highly recommended book from me.
It’s informative and life changing.
It’s understandable and applicable.
It’s a book to read and utilize in life.


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